From across the room I watch my daughter type on her computer (theoretically doing homework), keep an eye on her phone and occasionally glance at the television. From the front of the meeting room I watch people “participate” in a meeting, shuffle papers and interact with their phone. On conference calls I hear fingers flying on keyboards.
The earnest eyes of my nine-year old remind me of what full presence is –
“Mom!” He says, looking right at me with his whole being, ” Be present or be absent but don’t be both,” he chides me with my own words and “brings me home.”
Our day-to-day is a relentless pace of urgency and we “multi-task” in the hopes of ever-boosting our efficiency and productivity. We should all have a “dent and scratch” section for the relationships that we’ve diminished and the work we’ve compromised by this strategy of partial attention on lots of different things.
If this sounds familiar be fully present for this short video and #thinkplink!